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A Dating Message To Women – How to Deal With Possessive Guys

dating messageThe Headache of Possessive Guys

We All know that it can be tough to date, and we all know that it can be even tougher for women to date. Guys aren’t always the best people on this planet, and even with dating online, it can still be easy for a girl to get caught up in a relationship with a possessive guy. There are no certain tricks to dating that will show you how to avoid possessive guys as it is not always obvious that they are possessive until a relationship has started to develop. At this point, it is probably too late. A possessive guy can be scary and intimidating, especially if they are unreasonable and demanding. Women are often at the centre of their negative attention and this can put a huge load of stress on them, particularly if they are searching for a way out of the relationship. A possessive guy can resort to extreme tactics in an attempt to control a girl, and this can be truly difficult to handle. This guide was written as a dating message to women to let them know that not all men are possessive guys, and that there are ways that you can help yourself and find help from others.

How to Date Possessive Guys

If you are in a relationship with a guy, and the only problem is that he is a little possessive, then it might just be a matter of insecurity about your relationship with him. As long as he doesn’t cross any lines, you could just take it as a sign that he cares about you, despite the fact that he is expressing it in a frustrating manner. If this is the case, then there are a couple of ways that it could be addressed. If you have strong emotions for him as well, then you could attempt addressing his doubts and reaffirming your emotions for him. This may work if he is insecure and only needs to know how you feel. However, if his possessiveness is coming from his desire to control you, then a more forceful tactic may be required. A possessive guy that is trying to control you needs to be met with confrontation. It is probably one of the only ways that you will actually be able to get the message through to him. You need to let him know that you are your own person and that you are free to make your own choices. It can be difficult to deal with a confrontation like that, but it is necessary if you want to stop his possessiveness before it becomes a bigger problem. If he is a decent guy then he will listen to what you have to say, and take your advice with a grain of salt. Hopefully it is enough to get him to calm down, and that it doesn’t turn into a bigger issue.

What If He Persists at Being Possessive?

Sometimes, no matter how hard you try to explain to someone, they just won’t understand. For a girl trapped in a relationship with a possessive guy, this can become a scary situation quickly. Often it seems like there is no way out of a bad situation like that, and it can seem like no matter what you try, he is still there trying to control you. Especially if a relationship has developed for some time before the possessiveness has reared its ugly head, your life and his could have become very interconnected, which makes it seem even harder to get away from him. When you feel like you have tried everything, and that no matter where you go, you find him waiting for you, it may be time to turn to others for help. It can be embarrassing and difficult to do this, but sometimes an outside influence is exactly what you need. There can be many people to turn to, and you would be surprised at how willing many people will be to help you. Look to someone that you trust, whether it is a family member or a close friend. They can help give you a fresh perspective and advice on how to deal with the situation. Matters like this can be very complicated and trying to deal with it on your own can make it even more tough. Even just talking with someone else about what is happening can provide some comfort. They may even know exactly what to do in order to fix everything. No matter how difficult it can get, finding someone to help you can set you free.

The Top 5 Dating Rules

If you are new to dating, working out the whats, wheres and the how-tos can be pretty difficult. You are probably just looking for someone nice to spend some time with, but it will seem more like you are in a competition, constantly judged against everyone else, rather than on your own merits. Nice guys and girls and quickly become neurotic wrecks as they lurch from rejection to rejection.
But if you take step back for a minute and make the conscious decision to enjoy dating, then you really can have fun with it, and find someone to fit into your life. I always tell people that the trick is to be happy with yourself so that you always exude confidence. In that way, all types of people will be attracted to you, and you will have far greater dating success.

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Be Confident

This is the trick, but it can be very difficult to realize. Everyone wants to be confident, but almost no one really is. Probably even George Clooney has times when he ebbs. But just because you do not feel confident, doesn’t mean you can’t be confident. Your internal meter maybe running low, but as long as you look confident on the outside, then people will treat you that way. More importantly, you will start to treat yourself that way. Confidence begets confidence.
Try it. Head out to a bar and spark up a conversation with someone, or message someone you like online. That immediate moment that you do it might be nerve-wracking, but to the other person you will seem very confident, and they will respond to that well.

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Dating Everywhere

One mistake almost everyone makes when they start dating is to only think in terms of bars, clubs and websites. They think that what dating means is either getting drunk and sidling up to someone in the dark and using a lame line, or they think that they have to sit at their computer every night going through dozens of profiles, picking the best ones to message.
That is because that is what the dating industry want you to think. Instead start to realize that the possibility of dating is all around you. In cafes, grocery stores, at the gym, in the street, everywhere. If you see someone you like, as a human being you can go up to them and start up a conversation. As a human being, they are free to walk away, but they might be OK with it.
Of course this is easier for women to do than men, as men always seem creepy when the do so. But if a man has something funny, relevant, or charming to say, any girl anywhere is going to listen to them, and respond.

Enjoy The Opportunities

One thing that worries people a lot about dating is the fear of rejection, both ways. They worry about finding someone really attractive, only for them to be turned down. They also worry about having to let someone else down, telling them that there will be no second date.
You cannot change how other people will respond, but you can change your response. See dating as an opportunity to meet new people and understand from the off that most dates will lead nowhere. If you just choose to enjoy the moment, getting to know someone new and doing something different no matter what the outcome, then you will be able to see the whole thing as an opportunity and an adventure.

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Reinvent Yourself

If you are feeling low, and your confidence is not high, then use this time in your life to do something about it. Lose that weight, take up that hobby, change that job. What you fear people will not like about you is, in reality, what you do not like about yourself. Think about what you really want from life and how you might change it. It might turn out that wanting a relationship was just a crutch for something else in your life and once you realized you really want to be a ski instructor in Irkutsk, you are happy on your own.

Be Picky

Lastly, do not be afraid to say no, and to reach for the top. If you are taking dating seriously then this might be the person you will spend the rest of your life with. Therefore you have to get what you want. Do not settle just because you do not want to hurt someone’s feelings, and do not settle just because you think you cannot do any better. You can.
But do go to every date with open eyes. You might find that the person you really want, deep down, is sitting across the table form you right now.

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