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Always Ask, Don’t Wait
It should be sort of common sense for most guys to ask if their date has any allergies, especially if there’s a bit of trepidation displayed when you whip out condoms. There are a lot of ladies (and dudes) out there that have latex allergies, though usually they’re going to tell you right away on a one-night stand. If they just suggest that you don’t use a condom, back right up and ask why. It’s important that you know about these kinds of things, especially if you’re hopping into bed with someone and don’t expect a sudden red rash–or fit where they start suffocating due to that latex allergy you didn’t expect. A lot of people might actually be shy about their allergies, because they might be embarrassed about how they will affect their sex life. The thing that people need to realize is that it’s about safety, not about embarrassment, and there’s absolutely no need to be embarrassed about an allergy that can cause a great deal of discomfort. This applies if you’re in Quebec City, or if you’re in the middle of Tokyo and people need to realize this no matter where they are in the world. This also, of course, applies to any medical conditions that you might have. A mind-blowing orgasm can easily be ruined if you’ve got a heart condition, and while we kid about that, it’s not going to be funny if the girl you’re having sex with suddenly drops dead because her heart stopped. The more information you let on about any issues that you have like this, the better, and that goes for your date as well. Hopefully, she’s smart enough to chat about it and let you know before it ends up being a situation that neither of you want to be up to your neck in.
Dealing With Allergies
It’s really not difficult so long as you chat about any allergies that you might have, or any allergies that she might have before the two of you have your one-night stand. One of the most common issues that people might have is a latex allergy, and that’s a big one when you consider the use of condoms. It’s not the easiest always to find latex-free condoms at the drop of a hat, so you need to plan in advance for your hookup to have that sort of thing available and ready. There are obviously many other allergies floating around out there that you might find yourself having to deal with. If you have any allergies related to food that might commonly be used in the bedroom, an aversion to leather, or anything close to that, it’s something that needs to be mentioned before you jump into the middle of a scene. It’s up to both of you to discuss this sort of thing, and iron out any possible difficulties that the two of you might actually run across in the middle of your hookup.
The Same Goes for Medical Issues
Maybe you’ve got asthma. Maybe you’ve got a heart condition. Heck, maybe you’re in a wheelchair–whatever the case may be, there are ways around this sort of thing so that it’s not a big deal when the two of you are in the middle of a hookup. It just takes a bit of style and finesse to get past it all, and at the end of the day, it’s just a matter of talking about what’s going on so both parties are informed and everyone is safe in that particular hookup environment. It’s just common sense to talk about this sort of thing–or so you’d think. It’s extremely important either way for this sort of thing to be brought out in the open, and again, it’s not like you want either you or your hookup to drop dead in the middle of an intense orgasm because you forgot about taking your heart medication because it didn’t look cool. If you’re hooking up with someone that doesn’t want you to stay safe and healthy, then that’s obviously not the kind of person that you need to hook-up within the first place.
It Doesn’t Need to be a Big Deal
Anyone that makes your medical issues into a reason not to sleep with you is making it into a big deal, and if that’s the case, then you need to back up and find someone else to roll around with. There’s honestly nothing holding you back except your own inability to express that yes, this is a problem I have, but no, it won’t be a problem tonight because of x, y, and z. That’s all you really need to express in the conversation, but your partners do need to be informed in the case of something actually happening. Allergies and medical issues, in general, only need to be a big deal if they really are a big deal. Then again, most people that are terminally ill or otherwise in a horrible, bad way aren’t going to go out cruising for ladies in a bar, so we seriously doubt you’re having that sort of issue, and it’s probably not going to end up ruining your evening.
The More Informed, The Better
That’s all it comes down to at the end of the day. The more you can relay, the better off both you and your partner will be, and it’ll be a much more stress-free hookup. You won’t have to worry about your heart stopping or a horrible red rash breaking out underneath that chocolate body paint, and she won’t have to worry about her awful lactose-intolerance when she’s licking up all that whipped cream.People often make this into too much of a big deal when it really doesn’t need to be, and it’s important to remember that it’s okay to laugh it off once you’ve gotten the actual facts out of the way. Sex in general is supposed to be fun, and that’s why it’s necessary for you to make it fun even when you’re being practical, safe, and intelligent about your sexual practices. Keep that sort of thing in mind, and you’re going to have hookups and one-night stands that are much more enjoyable to both parties involved–and you’re also going to have more of them, no matter the weird allergies that you might have hanging around.