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Always Ask, Don’t Wait
It should be sort of common sense for most guys to ask if their date has any allergies, especially if there’s a bit of trepidation displayed when you whip out condoms. There are a lot of ladies (and dudes) out there that have latex allergies, though usually they’re going to tell you right away on a one-night stand. If they just suggest that you don’t use a condom, back right up and ask why. It’s important that you know about these kinds of things, especially if you’re hopping into bed with someone and don’t expect a sudden red rash–or fit where they start suffocating due to that latex allergy you didn’t expect. A lot of people might actually be shy about their allergies, because they might be embarrassed about how they will affect their sex life. The thing that people need to realize is that it’s about safety, not about embarrassment, and there’s absolutely no need to be embarrassed about an allergy that can cause a great deal of discomfort. This applies if you’re in Quebec City, or if you’re in the middle of Tokyo and people need to realize this no matter where they are in the world. This also, of course, applies to any medical conditions that you might have. A mind-blowing orgasm can easily be ruined if you’ve got a heart condition, and while we kid about that, it’s not going to be funny if the girl you’re having sex with suddenly drops dead because her heart stopped. The more information you let on about any issues that you have like this, the better, and that goes for your date as well. Hopefully, she’s smart enough to chat about it and let you know before it ends up being a situation that neither of you want to be up to your neck in.
Dealing With Allergies
It’s really not difficult so long as you chat about any allergies that you might have, or any allergies that she might have before the two of you have your one-night stand. One of the most common issues that people might have is a latex allergy, and that’s a big one when you consider the use of condoms. It’s not the easiest always to find latex-free condoms at the drop of a hat, so you need to plan in advance for your hookup to have that sort of thing available and ready. There are obviously many other allergies floating around out there that you might find yourself having to deal with. If you have any allergies related to food that might commonly be used in the bedroom, an aversion to leather, or anything close to that, it’s something that needs to be mentioned before you jump into the middle of a scene. It’s up to both of you to discuss this sort of thing, and iron out any possible difficulties that the two of you might actually run across in the middle of your hookup.
The Same Goes for Medical Issues
Maybe you’ve got asthma. Maybe you’ve got a heart condition. Heck, maybe you’re in a wheelchair–whatever the case may be, there are ways around this sort of thing so that it’s not a big deal when the two of you are in the middle of a hookup. It just takes a bit of style and finesse to get past it all, and at the end of the day, it’s just a matter of talking about what’s going on so both parties are informed and everyone is safe in that particular hookup environment. It’s just common sense to talk about this sort of thing–or so you’d think. It’s extremely important either way for this sort of thing to be brought out in the open, and again, it’s not like you want either you or your hookup to drop dead in the middle of an intense orgasm because you forgot about taking your heart medication because it didn’t look cool. If you’re hooking up with someone that doesn’t want you to stay safe and healthy, then that’s obviously not the kind of person that you need to hook-up within the first place.
It Doesn’t Need to be a Big Deal
Anyone that makes your medical issues into a reason not to sleep with you is making it into a big deal, and if that’s the case, then you need to back up and find someone else to roll around with. There’s honestly nothing holding you back except your own inability to express that yes, this is a problem I have, but no, it won’t be a problem tonight because of x, y, and z. That’s all you really need to express in the conversation, but your partners do need to be informed in the case of something actually happening. Allergies and medical issues, in general, only need to be a big deal if they really are a big deal. Then again, most people that are terminally ill or otherwise in a horrible, bad way aren’t going to go out cruising for ladies in a bar, so we seriously doubt you’re having that sort of issue, and it’s probably not going to end up ruining your evening.
The More Informed, The Better
That’s all it comes down to at the end of the day. The more you can relay, the better off both you and your partner will be, and it’ll be a much more stress-free hookup. You won’t have to worry about your heart stopping or a horrible red rash breaking out underneath that chocolate body paint, and she won’t have to worry about her awful lactose-intolerance when she’s licking up all that whipped cream.People often make this into too much of a big deal when it really doesn’t need to be, and it’s important to remember that it’s okay to laugh it off once you’ve gotten the actual facts out of the way. Sex in general is supposed to be fun, and that’s why it’s necessary for you to make it fun even when you’re being practical, safe, and intelligent about your sexual practices. Keep that sort of thing in mind, and you’re going to have hookups and one-night stands that are much more enjoyable to both parties involved–and you’re also going to have more of them, no matter the weird allergies that you might have hanging around.
Sexual health problems can ruin a lot of relationships in life. Whilst you can cure a few of them, others are incurable, meaning you will be a transmitter of them for the rest of your life. Obviously, you can still have sex without passing them on, but you have to rely on a condom not splitting to make sure you don’t pass on your diseases to other people.Whilst there’s always a risk of getting something from someone, it is much lower when you take proper precautions.
So, What Now?
STD’s happen, unfortunately. The problem is that society stigmatizes them, meaning that when you tell a date you have an STD, they are likely to just leave without giving you a chance.If you have caught a sexually transmitted disease, make sure that you go straight to the Doctor, with as much information as possible. If you have any symptoms that you can’t trace to a normal illness, you’ve probably go an STD. Some STD’s are curable if you treat them correctly and quickly.
For the love of god, do not be sexually active until your Doctor has given the all clear. It’s a hell of a thing to know you have a disease and knowingly pass it on.
The best thing to do, is not to get an STD in the first place. ALWAYS practice safe sex with someone until you know for sure that they are clean and have medically tested results to show it. Get yourself tested regularly, even if you don’t think that -you- have one. Condoms are always necessary. Who cares if it feels a little bit better without one. Condoms should be a prerequisite to having sex. If you don’t have any, order a pizza and watch Law and Order.
Getting tested is usually free, easy and relatively painless. There’s seriously no reason why you shouldn’t go to the Doctor as soon as you suspect you might have something. Doctors will have seen this hundreds of times before and there’s no use being shy or pretending that you don’t have an STD.
Most common STD’s can be treated with a short course of oral antibiotics, which isn’t exactly a painful treatment process. Don’t drink on these tablets, because this will stop them from working, leaving your STD untreated. Finish the entire dosage too. If you don’t kill the STD 100%, you are risking it growing back, stronger.
You can also get vaccines for many sexually transmitted diseases. Go out and get these vaccines, even if you don’t think that you are going to be sexually active in the near future. They again, should be free and easily applied to you, so that means you can stop getting infected before it even happens. Great!
Even After Vaccines
Whilst you are vaccinated, the chance of catching certain diseases is lower. However, there are some diseases that cannot possibly be treated, vaccinated or fought. These are life threatening disease like HIV and you still need to be super careful. It’s a surefire way to get yourself killed or at least lose decades of your life expectancy. In addition to this, people knowing that you have HIV will avoid you, because people are scared of catching it.
Dating With STD’s
Whilst there are ways you can still date when you have STD’s, you’ll have a difficult time of it because of people’s preconceptions. Make sure that you tell everyone you are going to touch, because it is their choice whether to take the risk. Abstain from sex until you are marked clear, but if you must, have sex, wear a damn condom. Make sure your partner gets tested and goes to the doctor after. In fact, go with them, so they can’t blow it off.
Until you are clean, your life will become a lot more difficult on the dating side. Put your efforts to one side for a while and keep your pants on. Most sexually transmitted disease medicine courses are short and you won’t need to risk it all for one night of pleasure.
Respect Your Date
Don’t throw away the start of a great relationship by having sex with someone when you have an STD. Especially, if you haven’t told them you have one.
If the relationship is going to be good, you are going to be able to tell them you are being treated and you are going to wait until after the treatment is finished to make sure you don’t transmit anything to them. Even if you think it’ll repel them, they have a right to know and choose what to do. Please be careful and don’t spread STD’s.